Losing Control

Forgiveness.
It's important and often essential for having a healthy attitude and well-adjusted mindset.

But how do you get there?  There are some wrongs that are so tightly fixed in palm of my hand it seems impossible to unclench my fingers and let it fall away.

I was once told that it becomes very hard to remain angry and resentful at someone for whom you are praying.  And I've found that it works.  When I take this person who is afflicting me and regularly put them before God in prayer......when I ask that He meet their current needs (whatever they are), when I ask that He heal their hurts and reveal His love and grace to them.....then in my spirit I become less and less bothered by them.

I'm not saying that I start feeling any affection toward the person.  I'm saying that it weakens their control over me, which is what forgiveness does.
Forgiveness is letting go of whatever it is about the situation that is controlling you.
Controlling your thoughts and your emotions.

No human deserves that much power over your life.